I've been thinking a lot about some questions I've had recently about my husband. First of all, I want everyone to know that I have a wonderful, caring and compassionate husband. He is a great father, son, brother and husband. He is a great listener, problem solver and the spiritual leader of our home.
What some perceive when they see my husband (especially in contrast to my personality) is not who he truly is (shy, quiet, reserved,etc).
For those of you who DO know my husband and have taken time out of your busy lives to get to know him personally, you all know how wonderful he is! For those who still don't "Get it", well maybe reading this article will help you understand.
http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-Someone-With-Chronic-Pain
No one can "know" someone else just by watching them or talking to them for 5 or 10 minutes here and there. Getting to know someone means spending quality time with that person not in a busy setting, work setting or where lots of people and distractions are, but one on one or in a small group.
If you want to get to know someone, spend time with them.You never know what someone else is dealing with, so try to not be judgmental or assume anything, but instead, step out of your comfort zone, reach out a hand and share you life with them.
In reflection, while I was writing this, all I could think about was Christ. I've had people tell me before, "I just don't get it. Why is God, church and Jesus so important to you"? I've tried to explain to them the wonderful relationship with Christ that I have, how I can rely on Him no matter what is happening. There is a Joy that is found in Christ that we do not have in this world. Joy is the ability to still have hope in grave times, when everything seems lost. Knowing that there is something better than this world out there! Anyway, when I try to explain this to someone who isn't a Christian or is struggling in understanding the importance of a personal relationship with Christ, they don't get it and they wont' get it until they themselves build a personal relationship with Christ through reading His Word (the Bible) and talking with Him (prayer and quiet time).
As a Christian, we cannot know God's intentions for our lives if we do not talk to Him! The same goes for our personal "earthly" relationships. We cannot get to know someone by just being around them once a week for 5-10 minutes or at a potluck with lots of distractions. We can't even begin to really understand someone by sitting around a coffee table with 10 other people. If we truly want to get to know one another, we need to give them our undivided attention and TIME.
Some of you reading this know exactly what I mean. We all have that person in our life that we know from church, work, or somewhere else, that we are just not "sure of", but once we actually get time to sit down one on one with them we find out some amazing things about them that we would've never known if we wouldn't have given them the time or attention. We also find out that others have burdens just as we do and they don't always want to bare their souls in public or even at church, because, unfortunately, church isn't always a safe place to bare our souls (it should be, but that is a different post for a different time) and they may not want EVERYONE to know.
The point is, don't go around asking everyone else why someone is the way they are, suck it up, get some courage, prayer for help and go talk to that person. You might be very surprised by what you find!
What some perceive when they see my husband (especially in contrast to my personality) is not who he truly is (shy, quiet, reserved,etc).
For those of you who DO know my husband and have taken time out of your busy lives to get to know him personally, you all know how wonderful he is! For those who still don't "Get it", well maybe reading this article will help you understand.
http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-Someone-With-Chronic-Pain
No one can "know" someone else just by watching them or talking to them for 5 or 10 minutes here and there. Getting to know someone means spending quality time with that person not in a busy setting, work setting or where lots of people and distractions are, but one on one or in a small group.
If you want to get to know someone, spend time with them.You never know what someone else is dealing with, so try to not be judgmental or assume anything, but instead, step out of your comfort zone, reach out a hand and share you life with them.
In reflection, while I was writing this, all I could think about was Christ. I've had people tell me before, "I just don't get it. Why is God, church and Jesus so important to you"? I've tried to explain to them the wonderful relationship with Christ that I have, how I can rely on Him no matter what is happening. There is a Joy that is found in Christ that we do not have in this world. Joy is the ability to still have hope in grave times, when everything seems lost. Knowing that there is something better than this world out there! Anyway, when I try to explain this to someone who isn't a Christian or is struggling in understanding the importance of a personal relationship with Christ, they don't get it and they wont' get it until they themselves build a personal relationship with Christ through reading His Word (the Bible) and talking with Him (prayer and quiet time).
As a Christian, we cannot know God's intentions for our lives if we do not talk to Him! The same goes for our personal "earthly" relationships. We cannot get to know someone by just being around them once a week for 5-10 minutes or at a potluck with lots of distractions. We can't even begin to really understand someone by sitting around a coffee table with 10 other people. If we truly want to get to know one another, we need to give them our undivided attention and TIME.
Some of you reading this know exactly what I mean. We all have that person in our life that we know from church, work, or somewhere else, that we are just not "sure of", but once we actually get time to sit down one on one with them we find out some amazing things about them that we would've never known if we wouldn't have given them the time or attention. We also find out that others have burdens just as we do and they don't always want to bare their souls in public or even at church, because, unfortunately, church isn't always a safe place to bare our souls (it should be, but that is a different post for a different time) and they may not want EVERYONE to know.
The point is, don't go around asking everyone else why someone is the way they are, suck it up, get some courage, prayer for help and go talk to that person. You might be very surprised by what you find!
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