The word "Ezer" means helper. This word was used in relation to God 21x in the bible. This word was also used when God spoke of the reason He made woman: "And the Lord God said, "It is not good tha tman should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." Genesis 2:18.
I was asked to state five reason why knowing that I was called "helper" just as God was, how does it help me with being a helper? Sometimes the word helper has such a negative feel to it. The dictionary definition of helper is:
"a person who contributes to the fulfillment of a need or furtherance of an effort or purpose; "my invaluable assistant"; "they hired additional help to finish the work".
Many times, this is misconstrude as "servant" in the sense of not having any will of their own, such as slaves before the abolition. I believe there is a fine line for a wife to walk. We are called to submission (servant), we are called to be humble and meek, we are called to be a helper, we called to be without blemish, we are called to bring honor to our husbands.
Looking at the way the Word uses "Ezer" (helper) in regards to God, I thought the following four points:
1. I have the same responsibility and priviledge as God in regards to helping my husband and as God had in helping his people.
2. I am to be a reflection of God's character to Josh.
3. I am the only one who knows what respect look like in Josh's life and what he sees as respect.
4. My respect shows him love.
So, instead of thinking of "helping" my husband as a burden or having to give up my brain, I now realize that helping him is a reflection of God's love. It is both a priviledge and responsibility.
Another important area that was cover is emotional intimacy and knowing what this means to Josh is extremely important. The author stated that for her emotional intimacy and sitting and talking, deeply, with her spouse. For her husband, it was just going with him to one of his presentations; being present, with him, supporting him.
I believe the same is true with Josh and I. However, when I really sit and think about it, I feel closer to him when we are doing something together, side by side, such as fixing the fence or working on a project together. Sure, I love our deep conversations. Spending time with him, working together; these are the times when I feel my heart full of love, respect and desire.
In order for our relationship to continue to grow, I have to keep these things in mind. I have such an awesome husband! He is talented in so many ways and a truly giving person. I am so blessed to have him in my life and to have him as my life partner. It truly is a priveledge to be his wife! Thank you Lord for the gift that you have given me in Josh!
I was asked to state five reason why knowing that I was called "helper" just as God was, how does it help me with being a helper? Sometimes the word helper has such a negative feel to it. The dictionary definition of helper is:
"a person who contributes to the fulfillment of a need or furtherance of an effort or purpose; "my invaluable assistant"; "they hired additional help to finish the work".
Many times, this is misconstrude as "servant" in the sense of not having any will of their own, such as slaves before the abolition. I believe there is a fine line for a wife to walk. We are called to submission (servant), we are called to be humble and meek, we are called to be a helper, we called to be without blemish, we are called to bring honor to our husbands.
Looking at the way the Word uses "Ezer" (helper) in regards to God, I thought the following four points:
1. I have the same responsibility and priviledge as God in regards to helping my husband and as God had in helping his people.
2. I am to be a reflection of God's character to Josh.
3. I am the only one who knows what respect look like in Josh's life and what he sees as respect.
4. My respect shows him love.
So, instead of thinking of "helping" my husband as a burden or having to give up my brain, I now realize that helping him is a reflection of God's love. It is both a priviledge and responsibility.
Another important area that was cover is emotional intimacy and knowing what this means to Josh is extremely important. The author stated that for her emotional intimacy and sitting and talking, deeply, with her spouse. For her husband, it was just going with him to one of his presentations; being present, with him, supporting him.
I believe the same is true with Josh and I. However, when I really sit and think about it, I feel closer to him when we are doing something together, side by side, such as fixing the fence or working on a project together. Sure, I love our deep conversations. Spending time with him, working together; these are the times when I feel my heart full of love, respect and desire.
In order for our relationship to continue to grow, I have to keep these things in mind. I have such an awesome husband! He is talented in so many ways and a truly giving person. I am so blessed to have him in my life and to have him as my life partner. It truly is a priveledge to be his wife! Thank you Lord for the gift that you have given me in Josh!
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