In my bible study from the book, "What Is It Like To Be Married To Me? Dangerous Questions" written by Linda Dillow, today's lesson (week 2 day 1) asks the following question:
What does it feel like to be my husband? During my last post I was extremely thrilled that God had allowed my husband and I to reconnect on a new level. He opened up an opportunity for me to apologize to him for not being the wife he deserved. I felt like I could finally begin following God's plan for our marriage. Then the weekend came and it's been over 4 days since I've really dug into God's Word and focused on His leading in my life and boy hasn't it shown! Grumpy, annoyed, easily frustrated and complaining, oh my! Reminds me of the old saying, be careful what you pray for unless you are up for the test. I most definitely failed the last few days.
How many times will my husband forgive me for falling short as a wife (no pun intended)? I pray that God has given him the grace to forgive me "70 times 7", but he shouldn't have to!
Today's study requests that I wear a bracelet and every time I complain I am to switch the bracelet from one wrist to the other. The action of switching the bracelet (or even just having the bracelet on) is supposed to be a reminder that complaining only tears my marriage and relationships apart. No one likes a complainer. Phillippians 2:14-16 says:
"Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in he universe as you hold out the word of life - in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing."
Many times, our husbands feel like they can do nothing right. Josh works at a job where, most of the time, he is appreciated for all of his hardwork and dedication to his job, but when he comes homes does he get the same type of respect from me? Josh needs me to be supportive and encouraging! When I am not, or when I complain a lot, whether about him, the house, or other things, it tears down our relationship.
I am very ashamed of the number of times I have complained over the 4 days about things that truly do not matter. I most definitely am not "blameless and pure"! The book goes on to give examples of things women do to complain about their husbands. I do catch myself occasionally make a "funny" statement about Josh, but for the most part I feel like I truly appreciate him. He is kind, loving, talented, giving, compassionate, patient and there is nothing he can't do; if it's broken he can fix it or will figure out how! He is an amazing father who takes advantage of the time he has with his son and focuses on quality time together (versus quantity, which there isn't much). Josh always puts the family needs in front of his own. Can I say the same thing? That would be a resounding, NO!
I have always known that I am selfish, but I have not relied on God to take control of my selfishness. This selfishness is holding me back from being what God wants me to be. I want to be more like what God wants me to be and less of who I am.
"Let those who love the Lord hate evil, for he guards the lives of his faithful ones and delivers them from the hand of the wicked. Light is shed upon the righteous and joy on the upright in heart. Rejoice in the Lord, you who are righteous, and praise his holy name. Psalm 97:10-12.
Lord,
Thank you for your Son. Thank you for giving us the ability to forgive, but most importantly thank you for forgiving my sins. I have fallen short this past week and have not given you the praise and honor you deserve. You opened a door for my husband and I to communicate much needed thoughts, desires and apologies and I did not thank you the way I should, by being in your Word,talking to you and allowing you to continue to build a new foundation in my life. Instead, Lord, I said thank you and tried to stand on my own two feet without your support. Lord, forgive me for my lack of faith and consistency. I ask Lord, that you will continue to work on my heart, that you will teach me to humble myself and to do your will my life, not my own will. Lord continue to work on my selfishness, help me to be conscious of times when I am complaining and self centered and turn me back to your will. Thank you for your patience Lord. Do a great work in our marriage and family!
~Jesus Name Amen.
What does it feel like to be my husband? During my last post I was extremely thrilled that God had allowed my husband and I to reconnect on a new level. He opened up an opportunity for me to apologize to him for not being the wife he deserved. I felt like I could finally begin following God's plan for our marriage. Then the weekend came and it's been over 4 days since I've really dug into God's Word and focused on His leading in my life and boy hasn't it shown! Grumpy, annoyed, easily frustrated and complaining, oh my! Reminds me of the old saying, be careful what you pray for unless you are up for the test. I most definitely failed the last few days.
How many times will my husband forgive me for falling short as a wife (no pun intended)? I pray that God has given him the grace to forgive me "70 times 7", but he shouldn't have to!
Today's study requests that I wear a bracelet and every time I complain I am to switch the bracelet from one wrist to the other. The action of switching the bracelet (or even just having the bracelet on) is supposed to be a reminder that complaining only tears my marriage and relationships apart. No one likes a complainer. Phillippians 2:14-16 says:
"Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in he universe as you hold out the word of life - in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing."
Many times, our husbands feel like they can do nothing right. Josh works at a job where, most of the time, he is appreciated for all of his hardwork and dedication to his job, but when he comes homes does he get the same type of respect from me? Josh needs me to be supportive and encouraging! When I am not, or when I complain a lot, whether about him, the house, or other things, it tears down our relationship.
I am very ashamed of the number of times I have complained over the 4 days about things that truly do not matter. I most definitely am not "blameless and pure"! The book goes on to give examples of things women do to complain about their husbands. I do catch myself occasionally make a "funny" statement about Josh, but for the most part I feel like I truly appreciate him. He is kind, loving, talented, giving, compassionate, patient and there is nothing he can't do; if it's broken he can fix it or will figure out how! He is an amazing father who takes advantage of the time he has with his son and focuses on quality time together (versus quantity, which there isn't much). Josh always puts the family needs in front of his own. Can I say the same thing? That would be a resounding, NO!
I have always known that I am selfish, but I have not relied on God to take control of my selfishness. This selfishness is holding me back from being what God wants me to be. I want to be more like what God wants me to be and less of who I am.
"Let those who love the Lord hate evil, for he guards the lives of his faithful ones and delivers them from the hand of the wicked. Light is shed upon the righteous and joy on the upright in heart. Rejoice in the Lord, you who are righteous, and praise his holy name. Psalm 97:10-12.
Lord,
Thank you for your Son. Thank you for giving us the ability to forgive, but most importantly thank you for forgiving my sins. I have fallen short this past week and have not given you the praise and honor you deserve. You opened a door for my husband and I to communicate much needed thoughts, desires and apologies and I did not thank you the way I should, by being in your Word,talking to you and allowing you to continue to build a new foundation in my life. Instead, Lord, I said thank you and tried to stand on my own two feet without your support. Lord, forgive me for my lack of faith and consistency. I ask Lord, that you will continue to work on my heart, that you will teach me to humble myself and to do your will my life, not my own will. Lord continue to work on my selfishness, help me to be conscious of times when I am complaining and self centered and turn me back to your will. Thank you for your patience Lord. Do a great work in our marriage and family!
~Jesus Name Amen.
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